I tell my clients this quote all the time:
“Pain pushes until vision pulls.” (Michael Beckwith, founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center.)
So many of us walk around feeling empty, isolated, and stuck. We replay old wounds, identify with our suffering, and convince ourselves t...
The Giggle Factor
As a couples therapist, I’ve noticed something funny: even grown adults turn giggly when the word sex comes up. Suddenly, it’s like we’re back in middle school health class, whispering and blushing. Couples ask me questions like, “How many times a week is normal?” or “Why do...
Our obsession with sameness and screens is eroding empathy, diversity, and resilience. The next generation is watching.
“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” — Brené Brown
We live in an age of constant contact, yet genuine connection feels inc...
"Recovery from childhood trauma is a lot like a growing up process—we must learn to do the things our dysfunctional parents did not teach us to do: appropriately esteem ourselves, set functional boundaries, be aware of and acknowledge our reality, take care of our adult needs and wants, and exper...
I used to ride my bike around the neighborhood until the streetlights flickered on. I’d explore with my friends, chase fireflies, eat popsicles that stained my lips neon red, and sculpt masterpieces out of mud. I didn’t care about getting dirty. I didn’t care about being perfect. I just wa...
“The standard you walk past is the standard you accept.” — David Morrison
There was a recent article in a UK magazine that described having a boyfriend as “embarrassing.” Not toxic. Not problematic. Just... embarrassing. That word stuck with me. It felt like a symptom of something deeper—som...
1. The Ongoing Work of Boundaries
I haven’t always trusted my gut. And every time I ignored it, I paid for it.
I didn’t want to make a scene. I didn’t want to make anyone uncomfortable. I worried—like I always do—about what people would think.
I’d see someone blow past my boundaries, and I’d g...
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” — Maya Angelou
I grew up with her. She’s beautiful inside and out—smart, driven, compassionate. A true professional who worked hard to get where she is. Nothing was handed to her. She earned every bit of her success.
So ...
I was criticized recently for sharing my vulnerabilities. I expected it. Still, it stung. I felt myself get defensive. But here’s the truth: I will not stop. I will not shrink. I will not silence myself to make others comfortable.
Because sometimes people lose hope—not because they’re weak, but ...
Betrayal cuts deep. Whether it’s a broken promise, a fractured friendship, or a partner’s deception, the sting of betrayal often leaves us questioning everything—especially trust. But what if betrayal isn’t just a personal wound, but part of a larger energetic pattern?
Many spiritual thinkers an...
“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” — Kahlil Gibran
The Phoenix and the Fire
In ancient myth, the phoenix is a radiant bird that lives for centuries before building its own funeral pyre. It burns in the flames, only ...
“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do.” — Brené Brown
Tonight, I had a panic attack in martial arts class.
Sweating. Shaking. Breathless. The room spun. I had to sit down while everyone looked on, asking if I was okay. I wasn’t. And I...
