Kaizen, a Japanese word meaning “change for the better” (kai = change, zen = good), emerged in post–World War II Japan as a philosophy of continuous improvement. Popularized by companies like Toyota and influenced by thinkers such as W. Edwards Deming, Kaizen was built on the ...
Introduction
Love can look like fireworks or like a steady flame. Fireworks dazzle for a moment, but fade quickly. A steady flame, though, warms, endures, and lights the way. In a culture where love is often staged for the world — curated posts, grand gestures, and polished appearances — it’s...
Over the years of working with couples, I’ve noticed a trend so common that I now make it part of my assessment: the role pornography plays in intimacy struggles. This isn’t about morality or judgment. It’s about how repeated exposure to porn reshapes the brain’s wiring — and how that conditi...
Why Curiosity Keeps You Young, Sharp, and Spiritually Alive
Introduction: Owning the Disruptor Identity
Someone once asked me why I describe myself as a system disruptor. To me, disruption isn’t about chaos or rebellion for its own sake. It’s about questioning the stories we’ve been taught to believe our whole lives — stories about success, love, wort...
Preface
I come from a lineage where storytelling and reflection were central — my great‑grandfather was a preacher, and though I’m more spiritual than religious these days, I’ve inherited that love for stories that carry wisdom. What draws me in are the timeless human experiences they reveal.
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Introduction: Redefining Power
When we think of power, we often imagine force, dominance, or control. But true power doesn’t always roar — sometimes it whispers. Gentle power is strength expressed through humility, compassion, and quiet confidence. It is influence without intimidation, leade...
The other day, a friend and I were talking about dating. Naturally, the conversation turned to red flags. It’s become one of the most popular terms in modern dating — almost like a checklist we carry around in our heads. But here’s the truth: we all have red flags. Every single one of us has f...
Marriage has always been a mirror of society—reflecting our values, our fears, and our hopes. But what happens when the very foundation of marriage shifts? When survival is no longer the goal, and emotional intimacy becomes the new frontier?
As a couples therapist with nearly 30 years of experie...
The Giggle Factor
As a couples therapist, I’ve noticed something funny: even grown adults turn giggly when the word sex comes up. Suddenly, it’s like we’re back in middle school health class, whispering and blushing. Couples ask me questions like, “How many times a week is normal?” or “Why do...
Our obsession with sameness and screens is eroding empathy, diversity, and resilience. The next generation is watching.
“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” — Brené Brown
We live in an age of constant contact, yet genuine connection feels inc...
"Recovery from childhood trauma is a lot like a growing up process—we must learn to do the things our dysfunctional parents did not teach us to do: appropriately esteem ourselves, set functional boundaries, be aware of and acknowledge our reality, take care of our adult needs and wants, and exper...
