Repetition, Devotion, and the Spiritual Practice of Showing Up
“The only way to get good at something is to work on it every day.” — an unnamed martial arts instructor (shared with respect, as I don’t have permission to use his name)
On Wednesday night, that same martial arts instruc...
The Personal Beginning
Self-love was never role-modeled for me. Honestly, for most people it isn’t. We’re taught to measure our worth by our looks, our status, or what we’ve achieved. And then we wonder why, even after checking all the boxes, we still feel enormous self-loathing.
For me, the...
It starts early.
You’re five years old, and someone says, “Be good.” You’re praised for being quiet, polite, helpful. You learn that approval feels like love—and that love must be earned.
Later, you’re a student, an athlete, a sibling, a star. You get gold stars, trophies, compliments. You lear...
Marriage has always been a mirror of society—reflecting our values, our fears, and our hopes. But what happens when the very foundation of marriage shifts? When survival is no longer the goal, and emotional intimacy becomes the new frontier?
As a couples therapist with nearly 30 years of experie...
A World on Fire
Not long ago, the headlines were filled with images of people in the streets—voices raised, fists clenched, demanding change. Commentators called it chaos, anger, unrest. But beneath the noise was something deeper: a collective eruption of rage, a fire rising from broken bound...
The Giggle Factor
As a couples therapist, I’ve noticed something funny: even grown adults turn giggly when the word sex comes up. Suddenly, it’s like we’re back in middle school health class, whispering and blushing. Couples ask me questions like, “How many times a week is normal?” or “Why do...
