“Don’t get too comfortable. You are only walking home.” — Rumi
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.” — Michael Jordan
Over the last couple of years, I’ve taken some of the biggest risks of my life: starting my own business, letting go of...
My mornings used to start the second my eyes opened — with my laptop. Emails, deadlines, projects, all before I even had coffee. I thought this made me productive, but in reality, it left me stressed, burned out, and constantly chasing the next task. I was “workaholicish,” convincing myself that ...
The Personal Beginning
Self-love was never role-modeled for me. Honestly, for most people it isn’t. We’re taught to measure our worth by our looks, our status, or what we’ve achieved. And then we wonder why, even after checking all the boxes, we still feel enormous self-loathing.
For me, the...
The other day, a friend and I were talking about dating. Naturally, the conversation turned to red flags. It’s become one of the most popular terms in modern dating — almost like a checklist we carry around in our heads. But here’s the truth: we all have red flags. Every single one of us has f...
It starts early.
You’re five years old, and someone says, “Be good.” You’re praised for being quiet, polite, helpful. You learn that approval feels like love—and that love must be earned.
Later, you’re a student, an athlete, a sibling, a star. You get gold stars, trophies, compliments. You lear...
Marriage has always been a mirror of society—reflecting our values, our fears, and our hopes. But what happens when the very foundation of marriage shifts? When survival is no longer the goal, and emotional intimacy becomes the new frontier?
As a couples therapist with nearly 30 years of experie...
A World on Fire
Not long ago, the headlines were filled with images of people in the streets—voices raised, fists clenched, demanding change. Commentators called it chaos, anger, unrest. But beneath the noise was something deeper: a collective eruption of rage, a fire rising from broken bound...
I tell my clients this quote all the time:
“Pain pushes until vision pulls.” (Michael Beckwith, founder of the Agape International Spiritual Center.)
So many of us walk around feeling empty, isolated, and stuck. We replay old wounds, identify with our suffering, and convince ourselves t...
The Giggle Factor
As a couples therapist, I’ve noticed something funny: even grown adults turn giggly when the word sex comes up. Suddenly, it’s like we’re back in middle school health class, whispering and blushing. Couples ask me questions like, “How many times a week is normal?” or “Why do...
Our obsession with sameness and screens is eroding empathy, diversity, and resilience. The next generation is watching.
“Connection is why we’re here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” — Brené Brown
We live in an age of constant contact, yet genuine connection feels inc...
How martial arts, Bruce Lee, and resilience teach us to rise again
Last night in Jiu Jitsu class, the instructor paused as my partner and I practiced a strike. He looked at both of us and said, “You can hit harder—because you’re learning to protect yourself. You can take the hit and not be hu...
"Recovery from childhood trauma is a lot like a growing up process—we must learn to do the things our dysfunctional parents did not teach us to do: appropriately esteem ourselves, set functional boundaries, be aware of and acknowledge our reality, take care of our adult needs and wants, and exper...
